Thursday, October 17, 2013

Parsha Perspective

By Rabbi Yisroel Shusterman, Dean, Cheder Chabad of Monsey

"Rabbi, I hope you can help my poor neighbor. He is six months behind his rent and is about to evicted along with his wife and three babies."

"This man must be a good friend of yours," the rabbi replied, "of course we will help."

"Friend!" exclaimed the petitioner, "He's not my friend; he's my tenant!"

Abimelech, king of the Philistines, abducted Sarah, our beautiful and righteous matriarch. Suddenly, all the wombs in Abimelech's household were sealed, and Abimelech was informed in a dream that this was punishment for his heinous – albeit unintentional – act. He hastened to apologize to Sarah and Abraham, who, in turn, prayed for his wives and maids, and they were all healed.

Interestingly, yet before Abimelech's household was cured, G‑dremembered Sarah and she conceived with Isaac. From this our sages deduced that those who pray on behalf of others, and are themselves of similar need, are answered first.

When we pray for ourselves the heavenly response depends on our merit. The conventional understanding of this immediate response is that when we pray for ourselves the heavenly response depends on our merit; sometimes we merit a blessing and sometimes we don't. When we overlook our own needs and pray for others ahead of ourselves, G‑d responds in kind. He overlooks His demand that we merit His blessing and grants us blessing in spite of ourselves.

One would suppose that this applies only to those who pray altruistically. But those who attempt to manipulate the process and pray for others only to bring blessing on themselves, do not deserve to be blessed. Their prayer is not selfless; it is cynical and manipulative. Yet the Talmud teaches that we are similarly rewarded even when we turn the needs of others to our advantage and pray for them only because their needs match our own.

This can be explained on a deeper level: Jews are inherently connected to each other; our hearts and souls are one. When one part of the body is healed, all other parts benefit. Not because the other parts show empathy and deserve to benefit; but because the entire body is a single organism. When a single organ fails the entire body is weakened, when a single organ is healed the entire body is strengthened.

The fact of our oneness is the true reason we pray for each other.  In truth every Jew should be affected by the ills of all Jews and every Jew should be positively impacted by the wellbeing of all Jews. The only reason this is not so is that our intrinsic oneness is not visible on the surface, and not always reflected in the way we live and interact with each other. However, when we show empathy and concern for each other, our oneness leaps into focus and rises to the surface. This is true even if our conscious intentions are not altruistic. The very fact that I take time away from my own needs to pray for you reflects the deeply embedded truth of our essential oneness. Though we don't know it, the fact of our oneness is the true reason we pray for each other. And once this oneness rises to the surface, everyone within the circle of our bond benefits.

(Excerpts from – by Rabbi Lazer Gurkow)

May  you have a meaningful and uplifting Shabbos!

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